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MAKING IT STOP: DR. BACH’S HOLLY FOR THE BULLY AND VINDICTIVE BEHAVIOR

Posted on by Gaye Mack in Balance, Writer's Work 4 Comments

If you’ve been following this blog, you know that recently I’ve been focusing on the subject of writing as a craft instead of my earlier blogs on Dr. Bach’s flower remedies.  However,  yesterday’s Facebook post by a friend regarding the distressing news of yet another young boy taking his life after relentless bullying because he is gay has caused me to take pause here and briefly return to the subject of Bach’s remedies and particularly Bach’s Holly which I blogged on last year.

 I’ve always found the dynamics of Dr. Bach’s Holly to be among one of the more fascinating of the 38.  Classically, Bach described it for ‘those things that vex the mind’; specifically, greed, envy and jealously.  But additionally, Holly, like many of the remedies, has a much deeper back story. 

 To begin, the leaves of the Holly bush reach out with sharp stickers that can be viewed(and experienced painfully!) as a protective barrier against danger, while the Holly berries are a vibrant red, perhaps reflecting rage and anger.  Over the years of working with people through private practice, workshops and training retail staff, I’ve observed a consistency of drivers behind those who manifest the negative Holly state of ‘in your face anger and rage’… it’s a deep wounding and sensitivity within the person, typically at the unconscious level. 

Somewhere in their emotional history, these people have experienced some type of aggression themselves.  It could be physical, emotion or both; it could be in this life, in a past life or both.  The bottom line is that the heart Chakra has closed down, fear is the driver and the agenda is emotional protection at all costs. 

In the case of bullies (and others) the perception is skewed as it is in all negative states of Bach’s 38 remedies.  In the negative Holly state, the interpretation ironically, is that everyone around them is on the attack toward them; danger is in the air.  Thus, the protective reaction becomes outwardly defensive through aggression and vindictive behavior…it can manifest as emotional manipulation, taunting or ridiculing as Kenneth Weishuhn in Iowa experienced and/or physical abuse. The negative Holly state IS THE BULLY ON THE PLAYGROUND.

However, the positive action of the Holly remedy is one that softens the reactive fear driving the aggressive behavior and opens the heart Chakra…the perception is shifted to reality versus a skewed interpretation of both the internal and external personal landscape.  Holly gives permission to ‘step back’ and reconsider our reality. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could put Holly in our water source!

HOLLY

Photography ©Dr. Edward Bach Foundation

 


DR. BACH’S “OVER-WHELMED ELM” FOR THE HOLIDAYS

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As the Solstice, Hanukkah, Christmas and New Year’s draw near, so does the stress that comes with these celebrations…on top of the astrological buzz that I’ve mentioned in past postings…and this month is crammed, that’s for sure. However, it doesn’t really matter if you are ‘in to’ astrology…the annual return of the holiday season always comes with assorted stresses…usually it’s a matter of how intense each year is going to be and what a dichotomy it is.

If the economy is in good shape, it seems we tend to carry on, ‘over do’ with the fun things…going to and hosting social gatherings, shopping, cooking, holiday events, cards…pushing us into an over the top frenzy to the point where reality hits us with the question, “What was I thinking?”

 Currently of course, the state of the economy and our country is on everyone’s mind; these are tenuous times, the future seems uncertain, especially the political climate.  Never-the-less, when Thanksgiving approaches we seem to rev up into ‘automatic pilot’ and as in previous years, despite vowing never again, we launch ourselves into the holiday fray…even though it may not be as robust as in past years.  And, although the source of our stressors (am I going to be first in line at the 4 a.m. ‘blue light special’? Will I want to kill my sister with the turkey fork at Christmas dinner?  How am I ever going to get everything done?) is probably somewhat different this year, they are part of us like clockwork and taxes.

 Dr. Edward Bach’s Elm flower remedy is a fabulous tool for combating the feeling that you’ve bitten off more than you can chew and are up against the wall…I have the large economy size on my desk at all times, by the way!  While Elm is a star at holiday time, I want to mention a few things about the action of the remedy in general.

 The negative Elm state is typically a ‘temporary’ state and can appear in any of us at any time.  In other words, it isn’t one of the soul types that I’ve been writing about, nor is it particularly what I would identify as a ‘personality type’, although it may seem so.  While we all can have the experience of ‘taking on too much’ for a particular reason, there are individuals who repeatedly find themselves in the negative Elm state.  So what does this look like; is it different than the occasional experience of feeling overwhelmed?

Yes and no.  On the surface it develops pretty much as the state I described that happens during the holidays…or it could be a forthcoming wedding or a ‘one-off’ important project.  But the difference is that there are individuals who are ‘prone’ to a repetitive imbalanced Elm state.  These are the people who tend to over achieve…particularly if they are perfectionists by nature.  The tendency is to take on, take on, over commit then crash and burn.  In these cases, there is a deep, on-going dynamic that drives the behavior which has an affinity to the remedy, Pine.  (for basic information on Pine, see my post of 8/19/11). 

 What I love about Elm is that in my experience, when we are feeling ‘overwhelmed’, a simple dose or two can swiftly shift our perspective into one where we can ‘step back’.  It fosters our ability to ‘see’ that not everything is a number one priority.  It helps us ‘see’ possibilities for prioritizing, delegating and exhaling!

 

ELM

Photography ©Dr. Edward Bach Foundation

 


DR. BACH’S ‘MUSTARD’ FOR SEASONAL GLOOM

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If Colonel Mustard did the dastardly dead in the library with a pistol, he’s clearly not your man to help with seasonal gloom.   As I look out my office window at the December rain that’s  pouring down, I’m reminded there’s an emotional fog that can come with the onset of the winter season or suddenly appears for no reason at all.  This fog can settle over any one of us, especially for those in the more northern areas of the country.   For some, this ‘funk’ arrives like clockwork throughout the months that I call ‘the dark ages’ when sunlight takes a holiday replaced by grey days that are endless.  For others, they’re fine one moment and in the next, they feel like they’ve suddenly fallen into a black hole.  When this happens, there’s relief to be found (besides taking vitamin D), in Dr. Bach’s flower remedy Mustard.

Mustard was not one of Bach’s Twelve Healers and therefore wasn’t one of the Soul Type remedies that I’ve been writing about in previous posts.  And, it wasn’t one of the ‘Seven Helpers’ which were next in the line of discovery.  However, it is one of the final 19 remedies which Bach discovered between 1934-35.  He described these remedies as being more ‘spiritualized’, functioning at a ‘higher vibration’ than the earlier 19 and that they functioned on a ‘different plane’. 

How and why these or for that matter any of Dr. Bach’s 38 remedies work, we don’t know as yet in a way that is understood by the bio-medical model.  But, at the end of the day, this isn’t really the issue.  More importantly, when there’s a resonance between a remedy’s vibrational energy, life force, prana or Qi (whatever word you want to use) and the individual, there’s a shifting of perception and mood.  With Mustard it’s as if the remedy ‘lifts’ the gloom up and out of wherever it has settled within the person’s energy fields and emotional experience. 

The key to identifying a ‘Mustard state’ is that there’s no one specific event or happening that throws you into the sense that you have a black cloud hanging over you.  It can simply be that you  are routinely sensitive to the lack of sunlight or that you occasionally experience a sudden onset of feeling low-spirited.  If you happen to be someone who experiences these moments or seasons of depressive gloom, Mustard is the remedy.

For clients who often experience a negative Mustard state, I recommend making a ‘personal formula bottle’.  This will help the 20ml ‘stock bottle’ you buy in the stores go a lot further, nor will the fact that the remedy is diluted in 1 oz of water, affect its power in any way.   On my website, look at the sub-link, What if you feel you need more than one remedy?  There you will find directions for making a personal formula bottle for one or a combination of remedies.

Mustard

Photography©Dr. Edward Bach Foundation


DR. BACH’S CHICORY-THE FLOWER REMEDY THAT MEETS THE ENERGY OF PLUTO’S HARD QUESTIONS

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In conventional and evolutional astrology, Pluto is often looked upon as the ‘bad boy’, ‘the cosmic 2×4’ and not infrequently, phrases inappropriate for a blog post.  Why is this?  When Pluto is ‘transiting’ (hitting) a sensitive point in our charts, such as our Natal Sun, Moon, or Ascendant, (and there are others depending on the blue print of one’s individual birth chart), Pluto will ‘clean out’ that which is no longer useful.  As human beings, change can be difficult filled with unknowns and risks which is why we resist… ‘better the devil you know’, etc., etc. 

But when we hang on, we aren’t growing.  The phrase, “change or be changed” is very Plutonian and whether we like it or not, the energy of Pluto’s outcomes are necessary for our soul growth.  Plutonian energy asks the hard questions:  What needs to go? What price are you paying for hanging on? What do you no longer need to defend or be defensive about? 

And, because Pluto is one of the slow moving planets, its energy gives us plenty of time to ‘get the message’ and adjust.  “Wake me when it’s over,” is a phrase that readily comes to mind.  But ideally during a Pluto transit, it’s much better if we’re awake and aware of what we need to change or what shifts we need to make in our selves, in our lives…letting go rather than resisting which invites Pluto’s 2×4!  Such needed changes can manifest materially, emotionally or both; it all depends on the evolutional message reflected in the birth chart.

Edward Bach’s Chicory remedy is one of his original ‘Twelve Healers’ which I identified as deep soul type remedies in Igniting Soul Fire-Spiritual Dimensions of the Bach Flower Remedies.  Thus, like Pluto’s action, Chicory can affect us at our deepest levels.

From an emotional perspective, Chicory is a good bedfellow for those times when Pluto’s energy cranks up the heat in our lives.  As a flower, Chicory is that blue flower that grows alongside the highway.  Entrenched, it miraculously emerges out of concrete and gravel. Mimicking the signature of the flower, the energy and behavior of the negative Chicory state is also entrenched. 

 Typically narcissistic, negative Chicory uses emotional manipulation to get what it wants; “I’ll love you more if you…” or “how can you do this to me after everything I’ve done for you,” are common attitudes in the negative Chicory state. In other words, control and neediness are the motivators which predictably have the potential to drive others away, leaving the individual in a state of lonely isolation. 

On the other side, the  action of the Chicory flower remedy helps us let go of our fear-driven controlling behaviors so that we can receive and embrace what we need for our soul’s evolution. During a period of ramped up Plutonian energy in our charts, this remedy can shift our perspective to an awareness that supports recognition of what’s holding us back and what needs to go in order to pursue the positive. 

In the coming months I’ll be revisiting the dynamics of Pluto’s energy with other flower remedy considerations as June will bring in the first exact Pluto square to the disruptive energy of Uranus…the planet of rebellion and vision of future strategies.  The forthcoming series of these tight and highly charged squares will affect everyone internally and externally as well as on the global stage.  While change should not be viewed as negative from an evolutionary perspective, we will need to fasten our seat belts and have our remedies within reach!

 

Photography©Dr. Edward Bach Foundation


EDWARD BACH’S WALNUT REMEDY…PERFECT FOR THE FALL EQUINOX AND THE APPROACHING NEW MOON IN LIBRA

Posted on by Gaye Mack in Balance, Karmic and Self-Discovery Astrology 4 Comments

The flower remedy Walnut is, “the Remedy for those who have decided to take a great step forward in life, to break old conventions, to leave old limits and restrictions and start on a new way,” so said Dr. Bach.

In this sense, Walnut helps us  cut the ‘ties that bind’, a phrase often quoted by the 1970’s motivational speaker, Dr. Leo Buscaglia.  Thus, it’s the perfect remedy for navigating the change of seasons as we welcome the fall equinox that took place last Friday.  I say this because there’s a lot happening astrologically around this year’s Equinox and the new moon that  involves shedding old ways (which I plan to blog on next time).  However, because Walnut is such a BIG remedy, I want to focus on it here…stay the course which is  another specific effect of this remedy.  It helps us to ‘stay the course’ and not become distracted by ‘the next shiny thing’ or others.

When I teach about the remedies, I remind people to think of them like the color spectrum;  we have our 7 primary colors, but within each color are thousands of subtle vibrational hues connected to that color…and so it is with the remedies.  When you read standard books about the Bach remedies in particular, there’s always some sort of ‘classical’ phrase or word to describe the action of each remedy.  For example, you’re likely to read that Walnut is for ‘change and transition’…which it is.   It helps us to navigate us through major changes in our lives…positive or negative. The circumstances could be marriage, divorce, new job, losing job, pregnancy, puberty, menopause…teething, surgery…the list is endless.

But Walnut is also helpful for several other states of mind and circumstances as well.  Like the ‘Walnut’ with its hard outer shell protecting the nut meat,  as a remedy it helps to ‘protect’ our solar plexus, the gravitational center of our body where we feel before we think.  It protects that delicate energy center within us from unhealthy ‘mundane’ outside influences that may be attempting to distract us from our intended life path.  On an energetic level, Walnut also helps to protect us from negative external energy that can be quite damaging particularly from those who do not have our best interests in their heart.

On a practical note, one question  I’m often asked relates to ‘nut allergies’…or ‘tree allergies’.  Not to worry…All of the Bach remedies (save Rock Water) are made from the ‘blossoms’ of the plant.  Because of the methods(sun and boiling) proscribed by Dr. Bach to produce the remedies, there’s no molecular structure in them…remember:  flower remedies are about energy and vibration…they’re about the plant’s healing  life force, Prana, Qi, energy…whichever term you are comfortable with…so no worries regarding allergies.  Although like many herbal tinctures, they’re preserved in alcohol(grape brandy), but there are ways you can still benefit  if you are alcohol sensitive.  For more information on this issue, check my website.